10 Brutal Things You Should Know About Being Married To Someone Who Is Bipolar
2. Part of not knowing what the person’s bipolar disorder is going to look like is not knowing what they are going to be willing to do.
Part of having bipolar can be what is called ‘anosognosia’, a weird word for a simple idea: a mentally ill person who is unable to perceive that they are ill. This means a huge part of bipolar is that when your partner most needs help they will be least likely to look for or accept it. Some people with bipolar can be very pro-active about their care but this is usually after treatment has begun to help. Part of what makes bipolar so scary — and yes, it is scary — is that it takes an enormous amount of work to manage and ‘an enormous amount of work’ is almost impossible for someone very ill with bipolar. Therefore, recovery is a long, hard road, save for a lucky few who respond to medication immediately and beautifully
3. Your partner may not have the same ideas about what it means to treat their bipolar disorder that you do.
If I had my way, my husband would be scarfing fish oil like it was beer, contacting his inner zen daily, eating a perfectly balanced diet and taking regular strolls in nature to reconnect. Let’s just say these things are not happening.
4. You will struggle with letting go.
Letting go of the idea that you can heal your significant other or the idea that your love can save them. Letting go of the way things used to be before the disease took hold. Letting go of waiting for the disease to let go! Letting go of thinking if your partner would just ‘try harder’ they wouldn’t act ill when having a bipolar episode.