10 Brutal Things You Should Know About Being Married To Someone Who Is Bipolar
7. …You have to throw ‘should’ out the door when having a relationship with bipolar.
You ‘shouldn’t’ have to be sad a lot, right? Well, nobody wants to feel sad. People with cancer, pain disorders, lost jobs and broken hearts ‘shouldn’t’ have to suffer either.
But we all do. When you love someone with bipolar, you have to stop listening to the shoulds and think about what really IS and what works for you. If helping your partner manage their medications makes you feel better and keeps them more balanced, great. If it makes you feel resentful and stressed out and your partner feel hen-pecked, then don’t do it!
8. You will need to re-learn that taking care of yourself is important.
Even if you already knew this, it’s hard to remember when the person you love is struggling so much. You can’t be calm, loving, patient or gentle with your partner or yourself if all your mental and emotional energy is going toward the other person.
You don’t want your relationship to start feeling like a caretaking role — and trust me, neither does your partner. So remember to include what nourishes you every day. I go on 4-mile runs a few times a week, write, read novels and talk to my girlfriends and my mom. I spend a lot of time being ridiculous and laughing!